How to Set Goals
It's a cool evening at Ken's place.
I went to greet him after many months of not hearing from him.
As I approached his house, I noticed a young man sitting outside on a plastic chair, with his hands on his head.
I drew closer to him to have a better view of his identity.
Me: Ken is that you?🤨
Ken: (Jolts in shock) Jesus Christ! 😳
Me: Nor be Jesus dey call you, na me dey call you🙄
Ken: eee......EB na you be this?😯
(EB is abbreviation for my name Ebenezer)
Me: Isssme oh....ee don tay since when I last hear from you, so I say make I reach your side😁
Ken: Omo! Na here I dey oh...this year don finish like this😪
Me: Wetin happen?
Ken: I no fit talk one better thing wey I don achieve this year😪
Me: "One thing" oh, just "one thing"
Why are you exaggerating na😏
Ken: Okay....okay.....but you understand what I'm talking about..
So many bad things happened to me this year😢.
Please sit, sorry for keeping you standing.
(He draws out the second plastic chair for me to sit)
Ken: What would you like to have?
(Muttering under his breath: "I nor even get anything for this house sef")
Me: I heard you oh 😂 Anyways don't bother, I'm okay.
Me: Oya mention the bad things that have happened to you.
1. I lost my dad😭
2. I suppose graduate this year oh, but I spill😓
3. I chop breakfast😪
4. Forex wey I dey do not gree work for me😤
5. All the goals wey I plan this year no, one enter😔
Na those ones I remember for now, because na them pain me pass😪
Me: Only you one nai all these things happen to? You try oh, Sorry about it...
Me: I'm not here to cry with you though, because all that is in the past and there's no amount of crying that will change them.
Me: Next year is here, you can still reset those goals.
Ken: (cuts in) and fail again?
Me: No. This time, break them into smaller tasks and set milestones for them, that'll help you more.
Ken: Okay.... you're making sense...🤔
Me: Also, try and make them realistic, I mean, try to create allowance for mistakes and times when you'd flop. You must not be uptight all the time, you're human too.
Me: For example,
- Start with: 'Goals for January'
- Then break them into 'Goals for every 2 weeks' or 'Goals for every 1 week'.
- Finally, break them into 'Daily Tasks' and if you want,
- make the daily tasks a 'To-do List'.
Ken: Wow, I love this concept🙂
Me: For your losses, you can only let go of what has gone, they were not entirely within your control.
Me: Identify your mistakes from your failed relationship and try to improve on them.
Ken: (Sighs) It's hard, but I'll try😔
Me: Exactly! That's the way forward. But now, you should focus on your academics so you can graduate. I think that's the most important right now, every other thing should be secondary, till you successfully graduate.
Ken: You're right...
Me: School will soon resume, try not to let your past failures, deter you from giving your best this time. I wish you success.
Ken: Thank you.
Me: To conclude, whenever you're about to go into a sad and depressed state, just start thinking of the good things that have happened this year.
Ken: That's right, I almost totally forgot that some good things have happened to me this year oh....🤔
1. I bought a new laptop
2. I got a scholarship to study Web Design and Development
3. God delivered me from armed robbers.
Hmm.... I remember that fateful day, God spared my life.....(Sobs)
Me: It's okay, let's just thank God for this moment.
(We both worship God for a few minutes)
Ken: Thank you so much for your visit, I am so relieved right now😃
Me: Thank God I was able to meet you. I will like to go now.
(I stand up to leave, Ken escorts me for some distance and turns to go back)
Ken: Bye, 👋 thank you again.
Me: Take care of yourself, until next time👋🏼
Dedicated to you, in Ken's phase right now.
© Marvellous Oreva (Ebenezer)